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On Separation and Divorce

My mind is wandering ..

What comes around, goes around really.

I was taken aback when my cousin shouted out  "why continue a commitment with someone, when you know that it wouldn’t last" point taken as she was coming from her own experience..

And made me ask myself too.. yeah why continue a commitment.. as we speak of marriage.. Do we continue to be married if along the way

            a) there are too many personality differences?

            b) quarrels, misunderstanding, fights can’t seem to be over?

            c) immaturity and insensitivity continues to take over?

Marriage entails all.. sacrifice, commitment, maturity, forgiveness, understanding, patience,, care and love.. For sure one would hold on to his/her last breath to save a marriage.. In the first place it has been decided upon.. And yet.. yup too many issues and talks involved!

What about the children??

- Do we take them into consideration? When you know the more they will be affected if both cannot impart love that should be there in the first place?

-For how long do we sacrifice personal happiness for children’s sake?

As given a fact that we are accountable and responsible for them.. we too, are responsible and accountable for our own happiness right? And we cannot give what we do not have… Ohhh never realized how complicated it may get..

She said “why continue a commitment with someone, when you know that it wouldn’t last" funny, how along a married life, the excitement of the wedding,, the first born, .. in your heart in time you’ll feel it wont last! But if love is a decision, I guess despite the feeling, you won’t entertain it.. or in one way or another entertain it and then fix it.. communication being the key.. the problem lies if one doesn’t want to communicate at all… guess there’s more to this than these!

There may be reasons personal to the ones involved.. and probably simply I do hope one would get to know his purpose for living .. and maturely face responsibilities no matter what.. and commit to the commitment made… hard fact to face but as one friend also blurted out "life does not always turn out the way you planned it".

And if whatever comes around, goes around.. let there be no blames, no unnecessary comments, no unsolicited advice.. but simply understanding, respect, care and prayers. And personally hope too, that whatever may come around, will simply be as simple as a television - drama scene that we can switch off and or change channels anytime... and we know there is more than  meets the eye.

-day 161
love bites
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  1. T.R.AureliusJune 2, 2012 at 1:05 AM

    it's really going to be a tough life kapag separated ang parents..and malaki ang effect nito sa bata...it can damage them emotionally and psychologically....

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  2. ViviJune 2, 2012 at 4:45 PM

    I am still single at 35, I had my share of boyfriends and I've been observing so many couples and I also agree to those married couples who wants to call it quits. If they think there is no more hope, no more respect and even a little love for me there thats enough reason not to o stay in the relationship.

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  3. Franc RamonJune 11, 2012 at 3:57 PM

    I think once the love and respect is gone, it's time to go their separate ways. Sometimes, it's the only way to keep the respect for each other. Of course, it should be handled delicately for the kids and ensure they still have all the love and attention from both parents.

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  4. ralphJune 11, 2012 at 10:31 PM

    getting married then having a divorce... just don't get it. in my opinion, these are people who think nothing but themselves, sorry. Yahweh bless.

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  5. RobbieJune 11, 2012 at 10:38 PM

    I like the way you sequence your article -- from serious to slightly humorous.
    I've heard so many stories about broken relationships and it really disheartened me -- really! Saving a relationship is what everyone wants.

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  6. Jessica CassidyJune 12, 2012 at 2:50 AM

    There are times that as couples, we tried our best to save the relationship :-( Why not stay together when you both are not happy and the kids are affected too :-( I am still married and have been through a lot of marital problems but so far we are still married :-)

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  7. Super Mommy JemJune 12, 2012 at 7:43 AM

    When someone get married, I believe that you have to work it out both no matter what. It is a sacred bond that a couple should respect as they respect each other.

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  8. marriJune 14, 2012 at 12:25 AM

    LOVE, RESPECT and TRUST...
    the LRT of any relationship and
    EFFORT is needed to work it out.
    If one of these characteristics is missing...
    divorce or separation is possible.

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