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Gem Answers # 7

I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy 
for the rest of your life. -Rita Rudner


(I’m not a guru, I'm not an expert but here is my answer to the following question...)

 QUESTION

"What is it like being married?"
  ANSWER

The first two months were a bliss. After that, I don't know. LOL!

Well, it was mainly because, Dennis, needed to leave the country two months after tying the knot!

So, my marriage arrangement was different.

Every after nine months (Dennis' contract), I would be at the airport to pick him up and then after three months he would be away again.

For years it was just in the honeymoon stage
and some reality stage.

That was our cycle.

We were never in the other deep stages until after almost eight years of being married.

What is it like being married? 
It's like a roller coaster;  

It's a kaleidoscope of colors including black, gray and white;

It could be heaven or hell, which ever you make of it;

It's being in two opposite poles, until you find your balance and middle way;

It's experiencing LIFE in a different perspective;

 It's the vow.

NAMASTE.
-day 65-
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  1. anncash16February 17, 2012 at 6:56 PM

    My bf and I are planning to get married this year and I hope we can surpass every trial, like yours!

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  2. Berylle Kaye HongFebruary 17, 2012 at 7:40 PM

    very well said :) it's hard to not see each other everyday after marriage though :(

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  3. enzoFebruary 17, 2012 at 9:31 PM

    I'm having an idea of what marriage is all about. Thanks for this post. It will somehow prepare me and be ready if ever I get to settle down.

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  4. PaliiitsFebruary 17, 2012 at 10:43 PM

    What is it like being married? Well, I've been married for 3 years and nothings changed. We're still like two 18 year old lovers, plus 2 kids nga lang. Hehe.

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  5. Gil Camporazo | RandomThoughts!February 17, 2012 at 10:44 PM

    Marriage is ordained of God. The Bible is plainly stating the very purpose of marriage. And getting to be married is an eternal covenant with God. It is spiritually known as the new and everlasting covenant of marriage. RandomThoughts! has already covenanted with the Lord sometime in 1980 and until now it is still in effect for time and eternity.

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  6. Edmaration etcFebruary 17, 2012 at 10:46 PM

    At the end of the day, Marriage is a lifetime commitment that needs to be handled with care whatever circumstances may come :))

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  7. MarmsFebruary 17, 2012 at 11:13 PM

    Marriage is a commitment. And it should be with the right and deserving person. Love should be the bond. And yes, it is a vow.

    Mharms

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  8. MonaFebruary 17, 2012 at 11:33 PM

    I'm single mom so i have no idea about marriage .. But i guess there is ups and downs just like ordinary relationships =)

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  9. markpogiFebruary 18, 2012 at 2:32 AM

    Marriage is a commitment between two people (of the opposite sex) inlove to nurture one another and to grow old together.

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  10. BlancaFebruary 18, 2012 at 5:16 AM

    Awww, you nailed it Ms.Gems. In a nutshell, it's really all these.:)

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  11. germzFebruary 18, 2012 at 7:54 AM

    that must really hard. my bf is just away for 3 months and i'm already having a hard time then what more is yours when it turns out be a cycle...tsk but at least you are still happy in love

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  12. violy vallesterFebruary 18, 2012 at 8:10 AM

    awwww.. gusto ko na tuloy mag-asawa.. hehe.. can't relate pa.. sana soon na! goodluck to me! ;)

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  13. yuukiFebruary 18, 2012 at 9:45 AM

    marriage is the ultimate expression of love and sacrifice...glad to hear stories of strong marriage like yours...

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  14. ROMELOFebruary 18, 2012 at 2:11 PM

    Marriage is like sharing your life with someone and the same goes with your partner.

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  15. KC Canlas | Spread Some AwesomeFebruary 18, 2012 at 2:43 PM

    If someone would ask me that, I have no idea what will my answer be. Well, great now I can just point him/her to this entry. Just curious, isn't it scary?

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  16. Mhe-anne OjedaFebruary 18, 2012 at 5:54 PM

    I will surely take note of this when I get married! I always like the Wow factor and with my boyfriend of almost 5 years I travel to US every quarter to be with him for 6 weeks max and meet in other countries for a few days during those months I am not in the US. So guess it won't change much when we get married coz there are those like you who thrive in this arrangement!

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  17. Sining FactoryFebruary 18, 2012 at 6:35 PM

    Oh my. I got scared. Joke. But yeah! Marriage is not in my mind yet. But I hope I am prepared when those times like yours and Dennis' come into my relationship. Parang Long Distance Relationship lang but glad to see you overcame all the trials with that kind of rel. ;)

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  18. lakwatseroFebruary 19, 2012 at 3:02 AM

    Marriage is a commitment to never fall out of love.

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  19. Sumi GoFebruary 19, 2012 at 7:29 AM

    I really like your answer :) It'll take a couple more years before I'll probably get married, but I'm quite excited yet scared at the same time. I hope whatever arrangement we'll have will work out.. :)

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  20. Blair VillanuevaFebruary 19, 2012 at 7:43 AM

    i feel the same.. my bf lives and stays in Japan, and visits me here quarterly but still hard to be apart.. love is full of "gaman / sacrifice" :)

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  21. Jenny O'TooleFebruary 19, 2012 at 8:38 AM

    My marriage is fully of mystery. We separated after one month we got married because I have to return in my origin country. Then I applied for my new visa I'm here we were 3 years married this year. No fights, we argue but only silly things. Most of the time we're happy and contented. Marriage and having kids are biggest sacrifice I've done in the past and I am happy of my decision to get married with the man I truly love. The man who is the father of my child.

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  22. SimurghFebruary 19, 2012 at 9:53 PM

    It's a commitment and a vow...
    I've seen this kind of arrangements.. my parents.
    My mom used to sacrificed longer, it was every 2 years..
    But you see they're still together now, after my dad stopped working from overseas.
    You just have to ignore temptations, and get a stronger resolve for yourself. :)

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  23. Kathy NgoFebruary 20, 2012 at 2:48 AM

    At least it keeps you interested and always wanting to be together.

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